Comparing The First And Second Child
One thing they have in common is my love for them!
Even before I was a parent, this subject has made its way into many conversations throughout my life. Comparing the first child, middle child and third child. I only have two (Thank goodness, it seems the middle one always gets the short end of the stick!) and there are some very big differences between my first and second that are shared with many other parents or siblings that have a first or second.
Comparison #1: My first one, Serophina, was always doing things ahead of schedule. One of the things that she did very well, very early was talk. (And by the way, she’s not stopped talking ever since!) Saioa, on the other hand hasn’t really showed much of an interest in expressive language. Her communication skills are great, and her receptive language is great. It’s just she’s not a talker. Simply put.
Comparison #2: My first one is the kind that constantly needs to be engaged. Now that she’s older she plays well by herself doing crafts and things, but when she was a toddler, I constantly had to be interacting with her. She wouldn’t have it any other way. Saioa, on the other hand, is so much more independent than her older sister was at this age. I guess what I’m trying to say is my second one is way less needy than the first one was.
Comparison #3: Serophina can be a little dramatic at times. She always has big reactions to things and is much more sensitive than her younger sister. Saioa is the most easy going child you’ll ever meet. (As long as you’re not putting her in a carseat) she will just hang around you sweetly and quietly observing her surroundings. When she gets an owie, she simply says “ow” and moves on with her day. Serophina bumps her knee and puts on a show worthy of a Broadway stage.
Comparison #4: Serophina is a people person. She LOVES interacting and talking with other people whether they be kids or adults. In fact, when our friends are over they are always impressed with how Serophina can just pop into a conversation with her own input. She would rather play a game with someone than play with a toy. Saioa is the opposite. She’s not fond of lots of people. She picks someone that she really likes and they will be the only one that she ever goes to. And she LOVES toys. Anything with buttons that lights up or makes noise will intrigue her for long periods of time.
I have had countless conversations with other moms who have more than one kid and it’s amazing the similarities we have with our first and second. What is it exactly about the second child that makes them laid back, more independent, and less concerned with talking?
If you have two children, do you find any of these comparisons true for your kids?
