Too Many Kisses, Mommy
Fending off kisses at 6 months old
“No more kisses, Mommy! Too many kisses! No more!”
At first when Isaac said this to me I thought aww how cute, but now that he says it every time I kiss him, I get a glimpse of him as an older child, a sulky teenager perhaps, who won’t let his mom give him some sugar. No! I am not ready for that! Get back here, sweet little toddler, and stay this age forever, please!
Luckily Isaac is still small enough that I can steal kisses whenever I want despite his protests, which I do often, and on some special occasions my son will bestow a kiss upon me if I ask nicely/beg him for one. Power struggle over kisses? Hmmm…
Usually I can obtain at least one good smooch when we are enjoying our nighttime snuggles right before I put him down, which I am thankful for. Those kisses seem to be so much more meaningful when given freely rather than forced or cajoled! My son is also more willing to be kissed when he is in pain or scared, and not that I want that for him, but I am always glad to put those small fingers up to my lips and make it better, or kiss away some monster-induced tears.
I know that one day I will not be able to fix all my son’s fears and hurts with a kiss, and I am dreading that but at the same time I know every child is destined to walk away from their parents and embrace their independence… but does he have to begin right now? Hehe, I will continue kissing that beloved face until he is fast enough to run from me, and then I will obtain those special kisses when I go in to check on my son once he is asleep.
I wonder when Isaac will discover girls, and at what age those little hussies will chase him all over the playground in an effort to catch and kiss him like I did back in the day. I wonder about his first crush, and his first kiss. I hope that he will grow into the kind of man that is comfortable with affection, practices it often, and shows it to his friends and family. Especially his dear mother (:
Is your child a kiss-aholic or a kiss-avoider?
Oh dearest Sarah…I can sympathize with you, as I am sure James will be there any day as well. He is already getting into the habit of pushing us away with his hands when we are all up in his space (he just can’t talk yet, otherwise he would probably be saying the same thing – back off mommy and too many kisses!).
Its a matter of us parents not personalizing the many things our children will say or do over the next 18+/- years, that could damage us if we allow it to. But, definately use your friends to talk about the sadness related to this new vouch of independence…
Who knew it could happen so early…huh?
Hugs and kisses to you from MN (I know, it’s not as sweet as your little buckaroo, but it will just have to do)
Sue
Hi Sue,
Thanks for the hugs and kisses from you guys — it’s almost as good as from Isaac, haha, and at least I don’t have to beg for yours (: I agree that avoiding personalizing these types of things will be more positive for everyone involved, and I am going to try and accomplish that throughout the years, while still sneaking kisses when I can!