Where There’s a Will
I’m not talking about the powerful trait that most children possess. I’m talking about the legal document that helps take care of them in case anything should happen to you.
It’s something that Kevin and I have managed to avoid for all this time, the entire four and a half years that we have been parents. It’s certainly irresponsible of us, I know this and I’m not making any excuses. It’s just that…. the thought of us not being here to raise our children is a thought that we don’t like to entertain. I can’t fathom it. Even harder is the thought that someone else would have to care for our kids if we’re gone. That’s when the problem of naming a guardian comes in.
You see, there is no one on this earth, who can love my kids the way that I do. No one can give them the love, attention and care that I could. Whoever they end up going to, they will always be second to that person’s own children. And that is a thought that I cannot bear.
Yet everywhere I go, I keep hearing about how important it is to have a will, and to designate a guardian for your kids just in case something ever happens. I even hear about how it’s so easy to do it now…. as simple as picking up a form at Staples.
But this job of raising my children, is not a job that should be taken lightly. I can’t just name anyone to do it. Is there someone who will give them the unconditional love that Kevin and I do? Who will sacrifice anything for their well being, safety and happiness? Who will endure the hard days and challenging behaviors without faltering on the amount of love and forgiveness?
The answer is no one. There is no one like that besides Serophina and Saioa’s Mom and Dad. So you see my problem of creating a will?
Do you have a will? Have you named guardians for your children?
We finally got around to getting a will this past winter. Chad’s sister and her husband are the primary guardians, with my sister and her husband as the backup guardians. It was not a fun thing to mercilessly critique the parenting styles of our siblings and friends to figure out who the best couple would be. But now that it’s done, it is definitely a relief that the papers are in place, though we hope to never use them.
Good for you for finally doing it! I think it takes an enormous amount of courage and I know I’ll feel better after I get it done, just like you did.