Time for Us
As our family grows, I already see finding time for “us” is becoming more difficult. If it’s not work, then it’s the kids, and if it’s not kids then it’s something else. I look at the examples set for us, the marital relationships my parents and Charlie’s parents have, and learn from those who are older and wiser on how to keep a strong relationship alive through the hectic years of child-rearing. Please pardon the emphasis on the marital status. I am married, so I’m speaking for myself.
This is what I’ve observed from the two marriages I know second-best to my own:
1. Find a hobby and share it. I’ve been told by married friends and family members that it’s important to share a hobby with your spouse. Quality time spent together doing something, anything, you enjoy, fosters a strong, enduring relationship. For example, my parents recently picked up biking as a hobby. They live in Western Pennsylvania where old railroad lines are being converted into bike trails. My parents enjoy long Saturday mornings, that turn into afternoons, riding together. Charlie and I are following in their footsteps. I am fairly new to biking, but love it. Charlie just purchased a bike so that he can give it a whirl. Hopefully he enjoys it so that it can also be our shared hobby. Sorry kids, there will be no trailer on the back of our bikes!
2. Enjoy an annual get-away. This one my in-laws swear by and it seemed to work for them. The destination isn’t what’s important, it’s the time away that really counts. Arrange childcare with family or friends whom you could exchange the favor, and just get away. Charlie loves a vacation and with his military job taking him away for months at a time, he’s more than willing to spend a few days with just his wife (me) when he returns.
Any other suggestions? How do you spend your time away from the kids?
