Momma’s Boy or Mommy Phase?
Momma’s Boy according to me:
Momma’s Boy-a boy about nine of ten years old dressed in suspenders who always runs home and tattles to his mommy about all the unrealistic mean things the other kids are doing to him.
Momma’s Boy according to Urban Dictionary:
Momma’s Boy-A wimp. A sissy. A wuss. An immature adult male who refuses to grow up by allowing his mommy to run his life. If he’s married, his wife is probably a frustrated and lonely woman in constant opposition to her mother-in-law.
Momma’s Boy according to my husband:
Momma’s Boy-Sayle
The start of the mother/child relationship
My husband’s definition irritates me sometimes as I don’t think Sayle is a momma’s boy, but I think he’s going through a mommy phase. Unfortunately, I think sometimes it makes my husband feel bad as he views it that Sayle prefers me over him. It isn’t a matter of Sayle preferring mommy over daddy, it is a matter of Sayle preferring mommy over everyone.
While it is very sweet that he adores me so much, it isn’t always easy to be in such high demand. If Sayle doesn’t feel good or having a hard time, he wants mommy and no one else can do anything for him. He won’t go to anyone else, won’t stop fussing for anyone else-only mommy. My husband does attempt to soothe Sayle and make him feel better, but he continues to cry until I come. Granted, Sayle only goes to these extremes when he knows I’m around; my husband does have the ability to soothe Sayle if I’m gone. Actually, anyone that Sayle is bonded to can soothe him if I’m not around, but if I am detected by his mommy-radar, it’s me and me only.
Daddy the amusement park
Sayle has his “mommy only” days when he is feeling fine; he just wants to be on me. Mommy only days usually consist of little hands clinging to my leg, Sayle crawling up my leg, tearful outbursts if I walk out of a room or put him down, and the overall need to just be attached to my hip. I can’t even go to the bathroom by myself!
The only conclusions I can come to as why Sayle is in a mommy phase are the mother/child bond and perhaps time. Even though we both work, I am with Sayle more than my husband is. I get him ready in the mornings and I am with him for two hours before my husband gets home. With that being said, my husband does spend plenty of quality time with Sayle and we do lots of things with Sayle together, so they get plenty of interaction and bonding time. I’m just around more. It isn’t that I am more fun that my husband, my husband is like an amusement park with Sayle. I discipline Sayle more than my husband does so I’m really “the bad guy” parent.
I don’t think Sayle is a momma’s boy, I think he is simply going through the natural progression of life. He is 18 months old and there would be a problem if he wasn’t bonded to me. The mother/child bond should be so sacred and so strong that kids will always want their mothers if they are sick, hurt, or just because. There will come a time when Sayle will want to be with daddy and I won’t be cool anymore, but right now it’s not like Sayle is 28 years old and I’m still bouncing him on my lap!
Brady is a mommy cling on too but Matty is a daddy’s boy and he still wants mommy when he is upset as do Aubrey and Cam. I treasure it! I know one day they won’t want me hugging and kissing them so I get in as much as I can now.
All three of my kids are momma’s boys and girls. They like their dad, but if they’re ever sad, sick, or just having one of those days, only mommy will do. It’s sweet, though I wouldn’t mind sharing the sick kids sometimes.
Haha, have him come over here – the girls prefer dad and grandpa than me or anyone “female.”
(Plus side, they go to daddy for diaper changes so guess it has it’s perks.)
Too cute Brooke, just remember Claire will not marry a mama’s boy. Remind my future son in law of that!
SO SWEET!! This is my favorite story from your blog.
Kari-that is exactly how I feel. There will come a day when we ask our kids what is wrong and they give us a short “nothing.” I’m not looking forward to that do whatsoever. I will take Sayle running to me sobbing with open arms over the “get out of my life” that comes with age.
Brynn-you know, I stayed at home when Sayle had a stomach virus several months ago, I wish I could have shared that love with my husband! HA~ I’m glad to know that there are other momma’s boys running around the area!!
Julie-so you already have daddy’s girls on your hands. I am a daddy’s girl myself!! Sounds like the girls have already learned early how to turn the charm on and where to get what they want!
Renee-I have informed Sayle of Claire’s expectations and he is taking it under consideration. Please assure Claire that if he does by chance, stay a momma’s boy, his mother is a wonderful and brilliant woman.
Bindu-Thanks so much! I’m so glad you like it, you know you are one of my toughest critics!!
Rylee is a “mommy’s boy” as well and I love it. I do not agree with the dictionary description in this case!! LOL. I am also with Rylee more during the day than my husband is. Rylee calls for his daddy but mainly that’s to just make sure he’s paying attention. He’s all mommy all the time. I am also the disciplinarian so it’s amazing to me to be the preferred parent so often. My husband teases Rylee and calls him a mama’s boy all the time. I tell Tray he’s jealous and move on. I enjoy this time because too soon he’ll be all into daddy and the fun “boy” stuff and I will be a thing of the past.