How To Handle Not So Nice Kids
What'd you say to my cub!?
We were at a birthday party not to long ago and most of the kids there were Serophina’s typical friends that she knows and plays with and they all get along swimmingly.
They were playing upstairs when Serophina comes downstairs kind of sulky and says that there’s a girl being mean to her and yelling at her. My initial reaction was not of concern because I thought she might be exaggerating and it was just a normal tiff that happens with children.
Later on I saw for myself that there was indeed another child there that I didn’t know who was terrorizing Serophina! And this is a big deal because I have never seen Serophina get scared or bullied or back down from anyone. It’s just her personality to be big and bold. So when I saw that this other little girl was causing my daughter to literally hide behind me in fear…. let’s just say Mama Bear no likey.
What was the right thing to do? Her parents didn’t seem like the reasonable type that I could approach and explain the situation.
I ended up giving the kid a minor scolding and watched her like a hawk for the rest of the party. I also used the opportunity to teach Serophina how to stand up for herself if someone was being mean to her.
It was a situation that I had never been confronted with before but I’m glad in a way because it got me thinking about how I would react if something like this ever happens in the future.
Have other kids ever been mean to your kids? How do you handle it?
The other day Nora was chased down the playground by a little boy who was throwing woodchips in her eyes and hair. I had been talking with his mom and we didn’t realize what was going on until Nora ran right up to me COVERED in woodchip dirt with the little twerp right behind her still throwing things at her head. I was so mad and couldn’t help myself but to tell him “Woodchips are not for throwing!” His Mom was really embarrassed and tried to get him to apologize -which he wouldn’t do. I was pretty annoyed and scared. Nora was blinking wood chip splinters out of her eyes for several hours afterwards. I have a scratch on my eye from an experience as a kid and I don’t want her to have to deal with the same thing! It definitely made me more watchful of what was going on when that little kid was around. Mommy claws can definitely come out on kids too.
Oh, I’d be livid! At least the mom seemed apologetic though. I’ve had to get on to other people’s kids in front of the parents because they were completely oblivious!
oh my gosh…i’m the worst at this. i’m so hard on my kids if i witness or hear about them being ugly or bullying others and if i see another kid doing it to mine, i lose it. so frustrating. especially when the mom doesn’t notice or PRETENDS not to.